I can sum up his talk in one sentence that really struck a chord in me “each of us is more than the worst thing we’ve ever done”.
Immediately after watching Bryan’s talk, I watched Monica Lewinsky’s TED Talk about online bullying and her own public shaming. Although both these talks had slightly different messages, I felt they had one message in common –
Each one of us is multi-dimensional and because of this, not even the worse thing we have ever done should define us in our entirety.
How many times do we solely judge someone by that one bad thing they may have done? Let’s even look at this on a smaller scale – how many times have you judged someone by one senseless act, one word they may have said to you, that “one” whatever it was? You identify that person with that act, that word. You can’t seem to get past it.
Or think about what you may have done in your life, something you did years ago that you deeply regret. Something that has stayed with you and consumes you day and night with guilt and shame.
No matter what – if you are thinking about yourself or that person you’ve never quite forgiven – every person is much more than that “one worst thing” they ever did. The message I received from both TED talks is that no matter what a person has done, we need to treat that person with dignity, empathy, and compassion. We need more of this in our world today.
You may ask – what does this have to do with style? It has everything to do with style because true beauty comes from what is inside your heart and how you choose to reflect that outward.
If you care to listen to Bryan’s talk, Monica’s talk, or both, just click below. I’m sure you will enjoy them.